Why You're Not Married... Yet

The Straight Talk You Need to Get the Relationship You Deserve

By: Tracy McMillan

Narrated by: Tracy McMillan

Length: 6 hrs and 6 mins

Publisher's summary

If you're looking to get married and you're not, there's most likely a very good reason: you. Not that you're a bad person - you're certainly not! It's just that you haven't yet become the woman you need to be in order to have the partnership you want. So how can you grow into someone who is ready to say "I do" and to attract the same in a mate?

You start with this book.

Based on her wildly popular Huffington Post article - one of the site's most-viewed of all time - Why You're Not Married . . . Yet dishes out straightforward, no-holds-barred practical and proven advice for women hoping to head down the aisle or just have a great relationship. With sisterly insight, razor-sharp wit, and refreshing candor, McMillan points out the things that might be in your blind spot: unhelpful attitudes, behaviors, and beliefs so easy to identify in others, but much more difficult to see in yourself. Then she shows you how to adjust them to get the relationship you deserve. Like a no-nonsense but loving best friend, McMillan meets you right where you are to help you get where you're going - with clarity and honesty. And she'll make you laugh out loud along the way.

More than just a relationship manual, Why You're Not Married . . . Yet will help you diagnose what's preventing you from getting what you want. Do any of these chapter headings sound familiar?

• You're a Bitch: How defensiveness and anger can hide behind a tough, take-charge exterior, and why being nice is never a sign of weakness.
• You're a Liar: How to stop lying to men - and get honest with yourself - about the kind of relationship you really want. It's the only way.
• You're Shallow: Being a woman who insists on a tall guy is no different from being a man who demands big boobs. Learn why you should let go of trying to get what you think you should have and focus on getting what you need.
• You're Selfish: The big secret about marriage: It's about giving something, not getting it. The other big secret: You will have to go first.

Why You're Not Married . . . Yet isn't so much about getting a husband as it is about shifting your perspective on being a wife. Here's a funny, insightful guide to becoming a more loving woman and creating a more loving marriage - even if you're already partnered. It's a book that will change your life and the way you think about relationships, and it may very well lead you down the aisle.

©2012 Tracy McMillan (P)2012 Random House Audio

Critic reviews

" Why You're Not Married . . . Yet is funny, smart, and so, so true. Equal parts BFF, boot-camp instructor, and relationship guru, Tracy McMillan will change the way you think about yourself and your relationships. This book is for every woman out there who wants to have a great marriage" (Ricki Lake)

"Tracy McMillan is a hero and visionary. Through her book I realized about myself things people I pay a lot of money have been trying to tell me for years: that I'm a bitch, a slut, a mess, and that I hate myself. She gives solutions on how to heal, grow, and get what you want in life in a funny, inspiring, personal and very rare way. This book is an empowering way to take control of your life and become the person you want to be. So basically, she shows you how to be the opposite of me." (Actress and comedian Whitney Cummings)

"As someone who has been married for twelve years, I love to give advice to my single girlfriends. Now, thanks to having read this book, I'm actually qualified to give it." (Heather McDonald, regular on Chelsea Lately and best-selling author of You'll Never Blue Ball in This Town Again)

Entertaining & Enlightening

Would you listen to Why You're Not Married... Yet again? Why?

Yes. The audio version was pleasant to listen to and great for the car. (I would not spend time reading it though.)

What other book might you compare Why You're Not Married... Yet to and why?

Don't know. Don't usually read these books.

What insight do you think you’ll apply from Why You're Not Married... Yet?

I will definitely work less and make space in my life for a relationship.

Any additional comments?

Tracy's writing is witty, a little course, but insightful and direct. I have already recommended this book to another single friend. Listening to it can provide the "girlfriend" advise that your real girlfriends are reluctant to give you -- even though it's needed. More pointedly, some folks need to be told that their behavior is "crazy" b/c they think it's normal -- it's not! Nice job Tracy.

amazing , simple and effective

loved it . I bought this reluctantly because of the title. I thought it's bullshit but bought it anyway. after finishing it in less than 2 weeks I'm gonna listen again . it was very insightful

INCREDIBLE!!!

Not sure if there were books like this when I was in college; if so, it would have been nice to have read it. I wasn't ready to receive it. lol

Not only is this book about becoming a wife, it's about becoming a better you. I look forward to my transformation. Tracy gives it to you straight and in a non-judgy fashion that doesn't make you feel like you're a total mess, even though you probably are. I'm working my way out of my mess now. If you're really interested in becoming a better you to become a wife vs learning tricks and tools to get a man, this book was written for you.

I hope my feedback encourages someone to purchase and listen with an open mind and an open heart.

Great for men too

I’ve been a big fan of Tracy’s social media posts about relationships and I thoroughly enjoyed hearing her elaborate on her perspective and experience. It’s great for guys as well.

Great tips and perspectives

I would definitely recommend this book. It really helps you look inward for the answers to your problems. I’m giving four stars only because I found some things to be a bit repetitive. But I listened to this while at work and it’s great.

ET

This book is not just for singles. Really enjoyed the book. It is a must read.

The "Get Yo Life" Guide

You may be hesitant in listening to Terry on this subject but she nailed it in this book.
The advice of this title are detailed , relatable, raw, and provocative .

Amazing book.

This is an amazing book. It helped me in so many areas. From the book I got lots of knowledge and feel certain that I have the tools I need to become my best me and attract the guy that's best for us.

Such an Eye opening book

Listening to this book for the second time! What an eye opening revelation on why I keep getting into the same relationships and have not been remarried. Sooooo good!

I recognize the truth when í hear it

What a kind and generous gift this book is, takes a lot of love heart and balls. thank you